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Insecurity?

I have this friend, a very insecure person herself and i want to dedicate this post to her. Yes you.

Well lets divulge into the meaning of insecurity. 

Insecurity is a matter of self-esteem that is projected from other people. By projected by other people, i mean it's the value of judgment you perceive from others. I would be stupid to just tell you, feel good about yourself, because that's practically addressing the problem with the problem. 

You can't simply change this. If words could help people change their thinking, well that would be a terrible world. All i can do is give you some advice for insecurity. Ahem. People always think poorly of each other sometimes. People judge more than they breathe. It's a sad world but it's just human instinct. You will run into someone who will think your a terrible person for some reason, and it's something you can't help. Now what distinguishes insults to insecurity is the person's self belief about themselves. If i am called a retard, i could care less. If i am called a retard and i know i suffer from extreme dyslexia and my grades hold me back leaving me disappointed in myself and thinking my future is destroyed, it'll hurt a bit more. It's even worst sometimes because i imagine it myself and the culprit that insults me is myself. It's the brains unhealthy way of judging yourself to try to make it better, but in the end it just screws it over and leaves the victim with anxiety and social problems. 

So how do you fix this? Logically you attack the source, where the insecurity is coming from. Actually let me take back attack, mending is a better word.

Now if we are talking about self esteem, make a nice list of thing you are and are not. Once you're done, find the things you are not and ask yourself if it's something that can be controlled or is out of your reach. Be rational now. Once you make that third section, it becomes your judgment towards yourself. Realize and keep in mind that your goal is to solidify your esteem, so if you think you are judging yourself too hard, fill out the section of good things you are. The goal is to make a list you feel good about. If you think you have a heavy list of things you could change, start changing. I'm not talking about weight or appearance, I'm talking about capabilities and what could make you an incredible person. One solid way of raising your self esteem is to do things that you can be proud of yourself like a hobby or some sort of accomplishment you've always wanted to do. The literal goal is to have a list that is not too heavy on one side. If your heavy on good things, you're a self centered. If you're heavy on crappy things, ask yourself why you hurt yourself like so and ask yourself to look after yourself better, and if your heavy on things you could change, start changing little things to shrink that section. I know this sounds really cliche, but stop worrying! It won't do you any good.
Heads up princess, your crowns falling off :)

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  1. Aw, that is so sweet of you. Your friend is so lucky to have such a wonderful friend like you :')

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